I am learning to say "no". If it isn't good for my family, if it doesn't benefit my children, if the relationship is not life giving, if it won't leave us better off than when we started...the answer is no. I told my husband today that I am tired of saying yes to things in order to keep the peace. I want our lives to be rich and full and happy. I want my children to have memories of good times together, happy times. Not times of strife, turmoil and busy-ness (is that a word?), rushing from place to place because Mommy over committed.
I am still learning. It's not easy. I hate saying no, I really do. I'm bad to over commit. To say yes because I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. But I have to stop. It has to stop.
So I am trying, really hard, to be intentional about what I say yes to. To work hard at building stronger relationships with people who truly love & care about us, rather than trying to appease everyone. To ask myself the questions from above, is it beneficial, is it life giving, will it leave us better off?
If not, the answer is no.